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Post by Lauren Schmitt on Jan 10, 2014 3:06:39 GMT
I actually feel awful for Chicks' mother. She has done nothing but supported and loved him, all his life. He repays her with feelings of embarrassment, shame, and anger. It was not his mothers' fault that his Dad left, but ultimately that is what Chick believed. All he wanted to do was follow his father and win his approval. Chick would have been the first person in his family to go to a university, a fact that his mother was so proud of. Of course, though, when his father enters the picture, it all turns around. Chick could have led such a different life. When his baseball career failed, his father left again. The man that Chick gave up his college diploma for left him, and the woman who pushed him to be the best man he could be, always stayed. There you have it. Sometimes those who we crave love from most do not actually give us the love we want.
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Post by Jessica Nicholson on Jan 10, 2014 3:54:21 GMT
I tend to gravitate more toward my mother due to reasons just the same as Chick gravitating to his father. i feel as though i relate to her more and she understands me more. I do not however treat my father with any form of disrespect or hatred, i believe i give him an equal amount of love as i do my mother. In Chicks case i believe he may of been influenced by society and that he believed was right apposed to what was truly right. He should have given his parents equal love but instead he chose one and just shut the other out of his life. But now he has the chance to finally fix things and apologize to his mother for the ways he was wrong which is a magnificent opportunity.
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Post by Sophia Parise on Jan 10, 2014 3:57:01 GMT
Your whole life can change in a second, either in a bad way or good. It all depends on your actions and for Chick he picked the bad road to go down. Now that he is with his mother again he is looking back on things he's not so proud of and is thinking he could of did something different. Such as the phone call from his father he receives on his mothers last birthday party. He had so many questions for him that will never be answered. But the thing that blows my mind is that he lied to family to once again try to seek approval from his father. He made that mistake before and you would think he would be smart enough to not do this again but he did it anyway. Once again it all comes down to the actions you take. If Chick didn't leave for the baseball thing then maybe everything would of been different and maybe his moms birthday party wouldn't of been the last day he saw her.
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Post by Peter Cook on Jan 10, 2014 6:39:23 GMT
On the topic, I do agree with Chick's belief that children tend to favor one parent over the other, but I completely disagree with his reasoning. I find, that as a child I always tended to want to please the more loving, supportive parent more than the neglecting parent, whose opinion i could care less about. Of course, I have excellent parents, but occasionally one becomes slightly more appreciative than the other and I tend to gravitate towards them more than the other. However, the case might be different with two polar opposite parents, or i might just be the odd one out, but otherwise, this alternate argument simply makes sense to me. It can be seen in daily life as well, because in general, if someone cares about you, you tend to care about them, but if someone dislikes or ignores you, then you (or at least I) could not care any less.
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Post by Jaiden Blom on Jan 10, 2014 18:39:21 GMT
Parents are the basis to your life, they're your mentors. But just like Chick he looks towards his parents for advice and depends on them but because of the separation he began focusing more on what his father had wanted him to do which was baseball, than comepletly focus on school and education as his mother had wanted him to do.
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Post by Alexa Wilson on Jan 13, 2014 11:13:50 GMT
While I do believe that it is common for one kid to have a favorite parent, I also believe that it is common for one child to lose contact with the parent that left, whether it be the father or the mother. If parents are divorced, that's different, there could be situations where you see both, but favoring one and wanting to impress one is also possible. I guess when you're grown up and ready to make your own choices, its your own call: Do you want to talk to them, or not?
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Post by Tremayne Hopkins on Jan 17, 2014 20:35:24 GMT
I agree that children tend to gravitate towards one parent over the other. Its just a natural kids cling to the one they need to try harder to impress, if one parent is easy to get love from while the other practically ignores them then they will try extra hard to get that other parents respect and love and try harder and harder to impress them. This doesn't always apply though, some children when they feel they are unloved with simply avoid it and get away from that parent and go to the parent that gives them the most affection. It can go both ways I believe that Chick honestly should've picked his mother though because in the long run she was the one who cared about him most while his father seemed to be trying to live life through Chick.
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Post by Alex Bowe on Jan 19, 2014 20:30:13 GMT
Going off what Tremayne said, it would be hard for chick to gravitate towards his mother because his father was more demanding, therefore the thought of impressing him was a much greater feat. Also, just based off of the personalities of genders, boys typically follow their father's footsteps through instinct. Boys can relate to a father better, and I'm pretty sure that they would also be enticed by the mystery of a distant father, and try to learn more by spending time around him. His mother was also considerably submissive to his father, so chick would follow the one in higher power naturally. Now I could go off on a tangent into government styles, but I'll stop here. Chick followed his father out of instinct, awe, and will to impress. That is all.
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