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Post by Kevin Womack on Dec 13, 2013 3:42:49 GMT
How much of you guys have relations with your parents like Charles? I feel like, as a kid, we all appreciate more parent than the other parent. I guess that I can say I am one of those kids that appreciates one parent more than the other, but I realized that I have not neglected any parents like Charles has. He treats his mom terrible, even though his father left them.
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Post by Irving Reyes on Jan 2, 2014 3:13:39 GMT
Most kids now a days don't want to have contact with their father once he leaves. They feel hes less than a man if he leaves his wife alone with the kids, but if the wife leaves the man then the kids still want to have contact with their mom.
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Post by LeeAnne Appio on Jan 6, 2014 2:13:29 GMT
I feel like the relations we have with our parents change as we grow. I mean how many teens now a days can say that when they became teenagers they've never tried to shy away from giving a kiss/hug goodbye to either one of their parents. I mean as much as I love my parents I can't even say that myself. When I was younger I did prefer one parent over another, probably because one was more lenient than the other and I could get away with more, but now my parents are on pretty equal grounds, but I feel like since Chick's dad left his family the way he did, that his mother should receive more praises than his dad should. Even when he was in college and his dad started reconnecting with him over baseball, I didn't think that was the greatest idea. Now, I'm not saying Chick should totally ignore his dad because at one point or another he is going to want answers as to why he left his family, but making a huge decision to leave college to play minor league baseball because his dad who left for 8 years said so? I didn't like that, after all, his mother played a way bigger part in Chick's life than his dad did, his mothers opinion should have meant more than his dads.
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Post by Evan Duarte on Jan 6, 2014 2:35:47 GMT
I can agree that some kids may appreciate one parent more that the other. This may be a result of one parent being more strict or not pay as much attention, where the other may be more easygoing. What Chick did was wrong by going against his mother's word who had always been there for him all his life and listening to his fathers advice after he had left the family for so many years.
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Post by Emma Spear on Jan 8, 2014 1:37:49 GMT
I agree that children do seems to favor/appreciate one parent over the other. In some cases, one may be more easygoing or not as tough on the child as the other parent is, which makes it easier for the child to like that parent more. While I was reading, I saw that Chick treats his mother terribly. When all she has done is love and nurture him since day one, and he still favors his father over his mother, even though he's left their family. I think it's nice that he and his father start to bond over baseball again. He didn't think about it twice he just did it. When his mother told him that she didn't think it was a good idea and suggested him to think it over, he didn't listen. He was more concerned about impressing his father, who had not been around for the past couple years. He should be more concerned about what his mother has to say since she has been there the whole time.
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Post by Stephanie Ambrosio on Jan 9, 2014 2:53:40 GMT
I also agree that a child May value one parent more than the other. Personally, I feel as if I may value the parent that is often around more than the other. However, it seems as if Chick valued his father much more than his mother even though his father was the one who left. I found it very strange how when Chick was playing baseball in college, his father just showed up to his games as if nothing had gone on. I underatand that Chick probably felt a sense of love in that moment but I think his father should've done that very differently. He should've started talking to Chick first and begged for his forgiveness from his act of leaving the family at a hard time. I think Chick is slowly realizing that his mother is really the one who was always there for him rather than his father, even though he is learning this the hard way.
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Post by Lauren Muncey on Jan 9, 2014 3:11:40 GMT
A child does either choose on parent over another, based on how they were treated by that parent growing up. I do belive it is wrong how Chick dropped out of collage for a minor league base ball team because his father encouraged him to . Mean while his father was never there for him growing up and now suddenly he's crawling back to Chick . I don't think that's now it should work, you need to earn your place back in someone's life before altering there future. Also I think Chick should have cared more for his mother after all the love and encouragement she has provided for him and after all the heartbreak she has been through too.
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Post by Emily Masse on Jan 9, 2014 19:52:20 GMT
Personally I feel as if i value my dad more than my mom. However I always look for acceptance from my mom. I know my parents will always be there for me and support me with whatever I chose to do. For Chick on the other hand he only knows that his mom will be there for him through it all. His father left when he was so young that I feel he kind of realized to value who has has. Even after his mother's death she's still there to support him and to help him get back on the right track.
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Post by Bryce McKissick on Jan 9, 2014 21:34:28 GMT
Young people often have a parent they appreciate more. Weather that parent is more or less strict or they treat their child better or any other reason may vary. Of course one should love both parents equally it's acceptable that they look at each one differently. Now, in a situation like Chicks, it's obvious to a reader like me that his mother is loving and caring. Why can't he appreciate her? His dad is no longer in his life and she does her best to give chick a god life. She'll even take a job as a cleaning lady to make this happen. Does chick have a logical reason for favoring his mother any less?
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Post by Zachary Manuel on Jan 9, 2014 23:01:56 GMT
I agree with Kevin on the fact that Chick doesn't treat his mom right, despite the struggles she goes through, let alone her reputation within the town. I predict that Chick will later realize and thank his mother for standing up for him in his times of need. It's hard for a young man to grow up without his father by his side. A father is a boy's main influence and the main parent he looks up to. Chick needed that, and due to his insecurities about his father, he treats his mother like he feels his father treated him.
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Post by Joey Messina on Jan 9, 2014 23:25:38 GMT
Concerning this topic of treating one parent better than the other, I feel like everybody does it, but some do it more pronounced, like Chick does, than others do. The reason Chick treats his mom better than his dad is most likely because he wants to keep trying to impress his father and treat him special because so that his father will not leave again like he has already done to Chick. Chick wants to keep his father in his life just like any other child does, manly because Chick spent so much of his life without that fatherly figure that every child should have. The reason Chick probably treats his mother poorly is because he knows that she is there to stay(Well at least that what he thinks until her death.), and he might have the thought that it was her fault why his father left them. Chick may not fully express this idea but it could be in the back of his mind without him even knowing it.
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Post by Greg Edmund on Jan 10, 2014 1:03:36 GMT
I agree that a child may like one parent over the other, but nowadays divorce seems to be more common making the fact that usually the parent that leaves, the child tends to like and have more appreciation toward the parent that stayed. In chicks situation it is opposite but he is almost forced into being a mommas boy since his father left and there was nothing he could do about it.
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Post by Kevin Womack on Jan 10, 2014 1:47:34 GMT
I know a few kids that i grew up with that may live without a parent. Most times, if the parent leaves, the kid will discontinue any ties with that parent. Leaving your child is a hard thing to do, but if you can leave without having an influence in that kids life, then you dont deserve to be remember in a good way from that child. If one of my parents left, I would grow a certain disdain to them. But Charles is the opposite. Trying to impress his father makes it even more sad, since no matter whatever he tried to do, he seemed to never make his father proud. This messed him up throughout the whole book and is the reason he is who he is. Its cool with being a momma's boy , but im sure he isnt going to try hard to impress her as he would his dad. Ever man has tried to make his father proud of them, but sometimes you got to be proud of yourself and do what you gotta do... no matter what you have to do
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Post by Kaitlyn Keane on Jan 10, 2014 2:45:00 GMT
It is evident that almost all of us tend to gravitate to the parent that we feel like we have to prove ourselves to. In Chicks case that parent was obviously his father. Although it is clear to us that his mother was always there for him and loved him, Chick did not see it like that. It really angered me when his father just showed up to his game after years and did not apologize or say anything to him. Chicks dad was a disgusting excuse of a father but every boy needs his dad and that is why I feel Chick was so forgiving to his father even if he should not have been. And I think at this point in the book Chick is realizing he should have been more appreciative of his mother.
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Post by Brooke Murphy on Jan 10, 2014 2:55:55 GMT
I believe that it is very common for a child to favor one parent over the other. Personally, I believe that I look for the most acceptance from my dad due to the fact that he is the parent I see less. At this point in the novel it appears that during college Chick did not appreciate his mother enough due to the fact that his father has returned to his life once again. Even though his mother told him not to, Chick dropped out of college to play minor league baseball in order to impress his father. I think that Chick made this decision because he wanted the approval of father at that moment more than ever to reassure that his father would not leave once again. Now as Chick has been reunited with his deceased mother and is looking back on those memories, I think he will learn that he should have listened to his mother more back then and begin to see all that she has done for him in his life and appreciate her now.
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